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A Few Tips on Working Through Divorce Part 2

Sunday, August 31st, 2008 | Uncategorized

Another important thing to remember is to not cut off contact with friends and family.  It may be tempting to ditch friends that were shared with an ex-husband or ex-wife, but this will only cause more tension and unhappiness.  True friends will stick by both halves of a former couple so long as they are not asked to choose sides – which is something that neither party should ask of them.  Keeping in close contact with family is also crucial, no matter how much easier it may seem to avoid them for a time to escape questions and comments about the failed relationship.   Keeping in contact with an ex-spouse’s family is not as necessary unless children are involved, in which case they should not be kept from seeing half of their family out of spite or other ill will.

In the end, no matter how hard it may seem at the time, it is imperative to keep the focus off of oneself during a divorce.  This is not to say that spending time alone to think about and grieve for the failed marriage is counter-productive (everyone needs personal time to come to terms with something so life-altering), but to jump too far into the well of self-pity and doubt only leads to more sorrow in the long run.  Keep friends and family close, try to continue with normal everyday routines, and, if possible, try to remain on friendly terms with the ex-spouse.  Retaining a cordial relationship with them may seem impossible at first, but establishing an amicable relationship early on will ensure that the years to come are not only easier, but filled with less bitterness.

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