Archive for October, 2008
Getting Back Out There
Wednesday, October 29th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
The best way to survive divorce is to jump back out there and start dating as soon as you can. While you do not want to get immediately involved in another serious relationship, nothing builds self-esteem like going out, socializing, and having other folks pursuing you. It also doesn’t hurt if you ex-spouse ends up a little jealous because of your new lifestyle. It is important to focus on yourself during this time, and being a social butterfly, reasonably, will help you along in your healing process.
- Date as much as you can
- Date for fun, not in search of serious relationship
- Socialize, be happy, have fun
If all else fails, and the dates aren’t coming along, socialize with friends and family in order to survive your divorce. Get out of the house, spend time with people that love you and think you are fabulous. Find new activities to participate in with friends, and more than likely, those dates will come. If you are out and about, enjoying life and living it to the fullest, you are going to meet new people and be more interesting when the right relationship comes along.
It’s important to focus on yourself after a divorce, and the most important thing you can do is have fun and socialize. If you are surviving a divorce, get out there, let your hair down, and have some fun!
How I Survived My Divorce
Monday, October 20th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
My divorce was the most destructive thing that will ever be recorded in my life. Here are some ways that helped me to heal during my divorce and cope with the anxiety that was associated with it. No one wants to think of their marriage as a road with an ending. However, statistics show that divorce is ever increasing.
In dealing with a divorce one must acknowledge that their marriage has failed. It is sometimes easier to ignore the problem rather than deal with it. Confronting the problem is the first step. You must recognize that you are now divorced and things will be drastically different. Accept that you will experience emotions that will take a profound effect on your day to day life. Your emotional stability is important and you must recognize that divorce is an emotional scar that needs to be healed.
Since I did not have children, I can state that I did not have the burden of dealing with the emotional issues attached with kids. However, my finances were in disarray and it took me several years to get back on track. Remember to consider whether or not you want to share bank accounts with a person. When things are going great, it seems like the sensible thing to do. However, more and more people are opting for separate bank accounts. This will eliminate any future credit problems that are associated with divorces.
Finally, divorce is not the end of the road. You can find joy and happiness in relationships with time. Remember to always look to the future with clear eyes and an open heart. Sometimes, time spent with oneself can help heal all wounds. Take the time that you have now, to reflect on what you can do to better yourself. This will help to make you a stronger individual and will strengthen existing relationships.
Hold Your Friends Close, and Your Cats Closer
Monday, October 6th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
My divorce was like a country and western song, slow, rambling and full of heartache. What is a girl to do in times like these? Well, you know that old saying- hold your friends close and your enemies closer? I think it should be hold your friends close and your cats closer. With that slight modification it would be perfectly suited as advice for those about to be divorced.
There is nothing more comforting while you are going through that sad, drawn out time then to get together with a friend or two or three, crack a bottle of wine and reminisce about good times you have had together. You know, don’t talk about him or the wedding or who is going to get what. Just talk about the fun you and your friends have had and plan on continuing to have. Maybe even start planning the next girls weekend trip. It gives you a bit of much needed stress relief and distracts your mind when you really need a break from the whole nasty proceedings.
Then after the girls are gone, cuddle up with the cats, after all, they are never going to do anything that would make you want to hire a lawyer, so you can count on them to be there for you. Cuddle up close and remember - there is an end to all this, and once it ends, life begins again.
Give Thanks – Even If You Have Questions About Divorce
Wednesday, October 1st, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
If you or someone you know is going through the challenges and difficulties of a divorce, it can be easy to lose perspective and overlook all of the wonderful things that are still in your life. One of the best tips for surviving divorce is to focus on that which you do have: family, friends, hobbies, a fulfilling career and unique talents. You may also find that they have a lot of questions about divorce in Austin.
Of course, when a marriage ends, it can eclipse everything else, so the important part is to give yourself tangible reminders of all that you do have. Start and end each day by writing down five things (at least) for which you are thankful. Sometimes, those list might include the big items in life, like your best friend or your parents, but just as easily, they can be small things like clean, soft sheets, fresh fruit or hearing your favorite song on the radio.
While it’s important to let yourself fully experience the sadness and grief that come with the end of a relationship, when you’re working through the effects of a divorce, expressing gratitude (even if it is silent or not seen by anyone else) can help you maintain small glimmers of light that will eventually grow larger. It can also help to surround yourself with photographs of the people, places and things that you love the most for constant reminders of all of the good that still exists for you to enjoy.