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Divorce Defined for Those Courageous Enough to Listen
Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Who knew that the bliss of a wedding day would lead to the sorrow, anger and frustration of a divorce? We never know and we usually don’t think in that direction while we’re busy planning what looks to be a fine future indeed. You take a chance and it works out or it doesn’t. But that’s life - full of risk.
The same way you took that “coming together” risk by getting married is the same way you will need to think and behave when ending a marriage. You need to look at now, accept your reality, and realize it can be a wonderful day - if you choose to look at it that way. Why look at marriage as the “happy” part and divorce as the “sad” part? That’s a choice in mind set, and you have the freedom to be happy - if you choose to be. This can be seem as freedom rather than separation; not answering to someone rather than being lonely. What’s so bad about having the choice to go out with friends, date, or leave the laundry on the floor?
If you look at being single as a curse, so will anyone who might be remotely interested in you. Who can enjoy being around someone who doesn’t enjoy being around themselves? Learn to be just you and love it! My divorce was one of the biggest self-discovery events of my life. I really like me now and realize that a partner is someone I will CHOOSE to have in my life because they add to it, not because they’re a necessity I can’t do without. Once you reach this point, divorce or marriage can actually look the same - just different types of risk.