Archive for September, 2008
Divorce Defined for Those Courageous Enough to Listen
Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Who knew that the bliss of a wedding day would lead to the sorrow, anger and frustration of a divorce? We never know and we usually don’t think in that direction while we’re busy planning what looks to be a fine future indeed. You take a chance and it works out or it doesn’t. But that’s life - full of risk.
The same way you took that “coming together” risk by getting married is the same way you will need to think and behave when ending a marriage. You need to look at now, accept your reality, and realize it can be a wonderful day - if you choose to look at it that way. Why look at marriage as the “happy” part and divorce as the “sad” part? That’s a choice in mind set, and you have the freedom to be happy - if you choose to be. This can be seem as freedom rather than separation; not answering to someone rather than being lonely. What’s so bad about having the choice to go out with friends, date, or leave the laundry on the floor?
If you look at being single as a curse, so will anyone who might be remotely interested in you. Who can enjoy being around someone who doesn’t enjoy being around themselves? Learn to be just you and love it! My divorce was one of the biggest self-discovery events of my life. I really like me now and realize that a partner is someone I will CHOOSE to have in my life because they add to it, not because they’re a necessity I can’t do without. Once you reach this point, divorce or marriage can actually look the same - just different types of risk.
My Tips for Surviving Divorce
Friday, September 12th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Conflicts among husband and wife are common these days and these conflicts most often lead towards divorce. However divorce can b controlled or survived in many ways.
In my opinion the main point in order to survive divorce is to do Compromise and both the husband and the wife must adopt this habit to compromise each others acts and behaviors. For example lets say a husband doesn’t want her wife to go office and he wants her to stay at home and to look after the children but on the other hand wife says that she will go to office so in this situation both the husband and wife must compromise like husband should agree that ok my wife should go to office but she will hire a baby sitter to take care of the children and the wife should agree on this. In this way the chances of conflicts between the couples minimizes and this ultimately reduces the risk of divorce.
Another important aspect on order to survive divorce is to give as much time as one can to his/her life partner means to make the life partner completely satisfied and taking care of each other’s needs and wants. Now a husband who in the morning goes to work and after his off from the work, he goes to some other place without telling his wife that where he is going and then he comes late, this thing would never satisfy his wife and in this type of couple there are greater chances of getting the life disturbed leading towards divorce.
Finally and importantly it is the duty of husband or wife is to share each other’s life experiences and the daily routines and happenings with each other. In this way a trust develops among the couple and they will be confident in telling and sharing all the things with each other, this would satisfy them and there will be very lesser chances of any type of conflicts among husband and wife. Moreover sharing all the financial matters and fulfilling each other’s financial needs can also prove to be a useful thing in spending a happy life and surviving divorce.