Archive for August, 2008
A Few Tips on Working Through Divorce Part 2
Sunday, August 31st, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Another important thing to remember is to not cut off contact with friends and family. It may be tempting to ditch friends that were shared with an ex-husband or ex-wife, but this will only cause more tension and unhappiness. True friends will stick by both halves of a former couple so long as they are not asked to choose sides – which is something that neither party should ask of them. Keeping in close contact with family is also crucial, no matter how much easier it may seem to avoid them for a time to escape questions and comments about the failed relationship. Keeping in contact with an ex-spouse’s family is not as necessary unless children are involved, in which case they should not be kept from seeing half of their family out of spite or other ill will.
In the end, no matter how hard it may seem at the time, it is imperative to keep the focus off of oneself during a divorce. This is not to say that spending time alone to think about and grieve for the failed marriage is counter-productive (everyone needs personal time to come to terms with something so life-altering), but to jump too far into the well of self-pity and doubt only leads to more sorrow in the long run. Keep friends and family close, try to continue with normal everyday routines, and, if possible, try to remain on friendly terms with the ex-spouse. Retaining a cordial relationship with them may seem impossible at first, but establishing an amicable relationship early on will ensure that the years to come are not only easier, but filled with less bitterness.
A Few Tips on Working Through Divorce Part 1
Saturday, August 30th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Divorce is never easy on anyone in a family, but there are some things that can help make the painful process easier. The most important thing to remember is to stop focusing on the past. To dwell on what might have been is a dark and lonely road with no end. The fact is that every bad situation in life inspires “what if” scenarios, but nothing in the past can be changed, so reliving it over and over again does nothing but cause more pain. This is true for everyone touched by a failed marriage, from the ex-spouses themselves to children of divorce.
That being said, focusing on the future is one of the key steps to getting past divorce. It is common for divorced people to dissect their failed marriage in a desperate attempt to avoid any mistakes in future relationships. However, this alone will not guarantee a successful new relationship. In fact, trying to find someone the exact opposite of a former spouse is non-productive because instead of seeing the positive attributes of a potential new relationship, all it does is bring back old memories of the former partner.
Helping People & Families Continues
Wednesday, August 27th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
The mission of BriatHome.org continues to be helping people. What may be changing is the way that people get that help. In the past, our focus has been to help low income and elderly people find the housing that they need. That is still a very worthy cause and it’s one that deserves tremendous support from the community. However, I have decided to refocus this site to help people in a much more personal and emotional manner.
As a child of divorced parents and now a divorcee myself, I know the pain an damage that divorce can cause. Since so many of today’s marriages end in in divorce, the number of people suffering is enormous.
I’ll be refocusing the site soon in an effort to help people that are dealing with the impact of divorce in their lives. Make sure you keep an eye on the site to see how it transforms.
But remember, housing the elderly and low income families is still an incredibly worthy cause and this site is not turning it’s back on it. We’re just moving to help a different need in our society.
The History of Briathome.org
Monday, August 18th, 2008 | Uncategorized | No Comments
Briathome.org was originally the home of Brothers Redevelopment. They were a non-profit agency that focused on helping the low-income, elderly and disabled people of Colorado find safe, affordable, accessible housing and housing services.
Brothers Redevelopment was founded in 1971 by a Lutheran minister, a Catholic layperson, a Mennonite minister and Joe Giron. Joe went on to become the former President of the organization. The goal of the organization has been to concentrate on ways to help disabled and low-income elderly people continue to live independently in their communities and in their homes.